We all think we're going to be great and we feel a little bit robbed when our expectation aren't met,
but sometimes our expectations fall short.
Sometimes the expected simply pales in comparison to the unexpected.
You've got to wonder why we cling to our expectations because,
the expected is just what keeps us steady, standing still,
and the expected is just the beginning.
The unexpected is what changes our lives.
~ Closing quotes of Grey's Anatomy Season 2,episode which aired yesterday.
Expectations is a something which we all carry around with us.
Personally I am really not a fan of expectations, in fact thats one thing I really wanted to get away from, and to certain extend did but a few fragments of it still cling to me. And no matter what I do they don't leave me, I guess they are using Fevicol - 'as they say Fevicol ka joor tuke ga nahi' :P
We all say the best way to go is having ''No Expectations''.
But the truth is if we have no expectations, then we will be like a dead soul wondering around with nothing to look forward to. Pain and happiness are the sides of the same coin, a coin which works in Kingdom Life.
A wise guy:P just pointed out to me that our Dreams and Goals are also expectations does that mean we should stop dreaming ??
I guess not, Expectations will always cling to us in one form or the other, all we can do is, filter our expectations and root out some of the weeds in them, channelize our expectations towards ourself away from others because many a times its the others who don't live up to our expectations than us going the honors.
Well talking of the unexpected, thats where a new journey begins into the unknown and sometimes the unknown surprises us in a way that the known could never reap its pleasure.
Well I must say Expectations has left me really confused,
I guess having Expectations is a part of being human.
I so wanna be an alien : P : P
P.S - This post is a product of my disconnected thoughts on expectations, I guess someday I might be able to make some sense of it. Till then I hope you guys throw some light on it :D
Showing posts with label Lessons. Show all posts
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Sunday, June 8, 2008
Thursday, May 29, 2008
Hope !!!
I am still on a sabbatical, I just watched this movie called 'A Walk To Remember' which a friend had recommended and couldn't stop myself from writing about what I took from the movie i.e HOPE.
Many a times life beats us down, shows us its ugliest face, throws us in a dungent, leaves us empty and we start to question 'Why Me',What wrong did I do? and we start cursing the entire world for putting us through it. But does blaming others help?, I guess not.
So in our darkest hours all we can do is hope. Hope for a brighter new day, hope for a fresh start, hope for a miracle to happen because till there is hope, there is life, in which there are dreams to be fulfilled.
So don't loose Hope :D
Leavening you with a few things to ponder :)
If hope is all you are left with, treasure it cause you never know when the miracle strikes.
Night falls because morning has to follow.
And as they all say 'Umeeg par tou duniya kayam hai' :D
Listen to the song 'Someday' - OST ' A Walk to Remember' :)
Sunday, April 27, 2008
Grass is always Greener on the other Side :D
My life isn't been a smooth ride, it has had its share of thorns and huddles.
Broken dreams and sour memories are a part of everyone's life, and mine is no different.I clearly remember the days when I used to cry myself to sleep, used to lock myself inside my room and just sit doing nothing for hours and hours, had nothing to look forward to and no more dreams to fulfill. I had become a complete lifeless being back then.
As time passed things got better, I had stuff which I could look forward too. And also, I had gained some kinda strength which made me delusional about handling everything which came into my way.
As I have said before, life always has its ways of telling you 'Who's the Boss', and even after properly watching my steps I tripped again. It took me some time to get up but this time when I got up I had discovered an antidote to all the pain .
This antidote was 'laughter', I can literally say I laughed my way outta the pain and one day all I was left with was a lotta laughs and no pain.
I guess after you have gone through pain and misery you get to know what happiness and joy feels like. And I must say I cherish happy times now, more than ever before.
All this has also taught me to live for the moment cauz u never know what happens next, 'may be the earth stops spinning or a volcano erupts beneath you'. LoLzz
They say laughter is contagious, you should spread it.
And the reason why you see a lotta :D's and LoLz on my posts is cause I wanna spread this disease of mine to ya.
Trust me laughter doesn't hurt,its one of the must have diseases :P
I'll leave you with this quote said by some great guy 'who's name I am forgetting, blame it on my poor memory' :D
I was sad because I didn't have shoes, until I saw a man who had no feet.
Broken dreams and sour memories are a part of everyone's life, and mine is no different.I clearly remember the days when I used to cry myself to sleep, used to lock myself inside my room and just sit doing nothing for hours and hours, had nothing to look forward to and no more dreams to fulfill. I had become a complete lifeless being back then.
As time passed things got better, I had stuff which I could look forward too. And also, I had gained some kinda strength which made me delusional about handling everything which came into my way.
As I have said before, life always has its ways of telling you 'Who's the Boss', and even after properly watching my steps I tripped again. It took me some time to get up but this time when I got up I had discovered an antidote to all the pain .
This antidote was 'laughter', I can literally say I laughed my way outta the pain and one day all I was left with was a lotta laughs and no pain.
I guess after you have gone through pain and misery you get to know what happiness and joy feels like. And I must say I cherish happy times now, more than ever before.
All this has also taught me to live for the moment cauz u never know what happens next, 'may be the earth stops spinning or a volcano erupts beneath you'. LoLzz
They say laughter is contagious, you should spread it.
And the reason why you see a lotta :D's and LoLz on my posts is cause I wanna spread this disease of mine to ya.
Trust me laughter doesn't hurt,its one of the must have diseases :P
I'll leave you with this quote said by some great guy 'who's name I am forgetting, blame it on my poor memory' :D
I was sad because I didn't have shoes, until I saw a man who had no feet.
Wednesday, April 9, 2008
Wrong decisions And No Regrets :)
After tons and tons of wrong decisions that I'v made I can easily call myself the queen of wrong decisions. LoOLzz
For starter,
I am doing the wrong course (though I emencely enjoying do it :)
I am in the wrong College (though I have a gala time out their :D)
I trusted the wrong people :( at least now I know whom to trust and whom not to :)
Worked with the wrong people (though learned to tackle stuff )
Made Friends with the wrong people( though the time spent with them wasn't that bad )
But I don't regret any of them, these were my own decisions 'with a few external forces acting :D' and I take full responsibility for them too.
Somewhere these decisions were a great vehicle for me to learn important lessons of life. They were pretty hard to digest at the beginning but now I won't have had them any other way :):)
Given a chance to backtrack on any of them, I would take a pass :D:D
btw my result is tomorrow (Alisha and Express's too ) so wish us Luck :)
For starter,
I am doing the wrong course (though I emencely enjoying do it :)
I am in the wrong College (though I have a gala time out their :D)
I trusted the wrong people :( at least now I know whom to trust and whom not to :)
Worked with the wrong people (though learned to tackle stuff )
Made Friends with the wrong people( though the time spent with them wasn't that bad )
But I don't regret any of them, these were my own decisions 'with a few external forces acting :D' and I take full responsibility for them too.
Somewhere these decisions were a great vehicle for me to learn important lessons of life. They were pretty hard to digest at the beginning but now I won't have had them any other way :):)
Given a chance to backtrack on any of them, I would take a pass :D:D
btw my result is tomorrow (Alisha and Express's too ) so wish us Luck :)
Monday, February 25, 2008
Omens,Luck,Coincidences,Destiny
I am done with my practicals 'finally after slogging for hours and hours in the lab',now down to the theory which start from the 5th of March. I still got about 10 days to go for them. So after taking a day off studies seemed to be good option 'which has now extended to 2 days'.
Alchemist was stock piled for about a year now ,so finally started reading it.
It talked about Omens and destiny ,well somewhere deep down I have always believed in omens 'signs of nature' and have been guided by them time and again, in times of trouble and decision making .I held to them sometimes and passes them at other occasions ,but yes they were always there.
So the next time something happens to you, observe it carefully cauz you might get answers to your questions cuaz the nature always has its way of getting things done.
Here a few lines from the book which are worth treasuring.
When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.
People learn too early in their life what is their reason for being, May be that's why they give up on it so early too.
People need not fear the unknown if they are capable of achieving what they need and want.
Making of a decision is just the beginning of things.
Every search begins with beginner's luck.
And every search ends with the victor being severely tested.
Darkest hour of the night just comes before dawn.
The force of the flowing water uncovers a treasure and it is buried by the same currents.
When each day is the same as the next it's because people fail to recognize the good things that happen in their lives everyday that the run rises.
Nothing can hold one back,expect himself.
Every person plays a central role in the history of the world
and normally he doesn't know it.
If you become better, the things around you will improve.
It's true life really is generous to those who pursue their destiny.
Well got tons of more things to write about ,
coming back to life after exams:)
Thursday, December 27, 2007
Loneliness v/s Solitude
I wanted to write about these two faucets of life since a long time ,but never got the right perception of them, Rohit's post called loneliness-solitude-insitutionlized made it possible for me .Do have a look at it.
We all battle times of loneliness in our lives, as per me loneliness is a feeling of being distant from others ,the feeling of not been cared for, etc etc etc . I feel sometimes we give a lot of undue importance to this word. And forget the joy of it 'you must be thinking, I have gone nut's 'but the fact is, in times like this you get to know the real you, you change as a person and gain some strenghts,learn some valuable lessons about people and yourself which you would cherish for life.
As its rightly said 'its all in the mind',loneliness is also the trick of the mind it's man made pain which can be surpassed by working 'yaah been there,done that'.
But yes its a part and parcel of human life 'pain, that's what makes us human' ,enjoy it ,learn from it and when you come out of it ull notice the difference.
So after the wave of loneliness passes comes the wave of Solitude, personally I am a big big fan of it. LOLzz
Its gives you a sense of absolute satisfaction and bliss which cannot be put into words, at times when life bashes you ,I recoil it by solitude which shields me from all the blows and strengthens me to fight back.
It helps me to find myself again and realise my true objectives and goals in this fast track and hasty world which I call home.
I have always been a Loner and I guess always will be, but times of tears do come, in which I have the company of nobody but me.I COME TO MY OWN RESCUE:) 'quoting Rohit's words'.I don't care what people say when people find me sitting alone cause they don't know the bliss of solitude. So if you are like me , carry on with the way you are, cause you have you.
Thursday, November 8, 2007
3 Species of Students
The NERDS
These are the people who attend all lectures, read the topic to be taught in advance and do a daily follow up on the things taught and 'yaah of course' score the maximum in tests. I find a large chunk of them in my college. You notice this disguised expression on their faces when the exams are nearing 'like the we know it all expression'.And when you go to get notes from them,just one day before the exams they hand them over to you with a smile which clearly says 'buddy,you are doomed'. They are the once who are excited before the exam and come out gleeful and smiling after it .
The JACKS '50% NERDS - 50% BRATS'
I am sure a lot of us fall into this bracket, 'I surely do',we enjoy the best of the two worlds,we attend lectures and bunk too.But yes we are the once who run after people for notes,start stuidng one to two weeks before exams, get an above average score and fight the urges to go out and waste time'doing tp' when we know our priorities are something else.
From my personal experience I say, people like us are the most 'lost and confused' bunch cuaz we know our priorities but then also we end up doing nothing about them ,we are dragged more and more into wasting time and end up loosing focus. And when our senses finally come back to place that time we realise the time which has gone,which would never come back.
The BRATS
We also see a lot of brats in our college life, these are the so called 'popular' people who bunk lectures ,sit in the canteen all day doing nothing, exams are mere nothing to them,they brag about flunking ,they enjoy their college life to the fullest learning nothing at the end.They know nothing about the things happening around them and are mere 'frogs in a tank'.
I always wonder where do people land up after college, I guess the nerdy kinds pass out with flying colours and end Up with their dream jobs, the Jacks find their own place in the world,they either make their lives successful or are pulled down by the brats following their suit to 'no where'. After college ends 'the so called popular' people end up no where and become 'Zero's from Hero's' and I guess the nerds are the once who finally win in this race called life.
Cuaz at the end of the day, it all boils down to the numbers on your score card and the knowledge you have, with no credit to how popular you are.That's something I have learned.
Though I have written this, I myself need to realise some of the aforesaid points cuaz still my senses are at the wrong places and I need to get they back in place before its too late.I am having a hard time balancing academics and extra-curricular activities ,but I guess ill have to give up some to achieve my dreams.
Do ponder over the aforesaid and think where you stand with your lives.
Here's hoping to become a nerd someday 'soon'.
These are the people who attend all lectures, read the topic to be taught in advance and do a daily follow up on the things taught and 'yaah of course' score the maximum in tests. I find a large chunk of them in my college. You notice this disguised expression on their faces when the exams are nearing 'like the we know it all expression'.And when you go to get notes from them,just one day before the exams they hand them over to you with a smile which clearly says 'buddy,you are doomed'. They are the once who are excited before the exam and come out gleeful and smiling after it .
The JACKS '50% NERDS - 50% BRATS'
I am sure a lot of us fall into this bracket, 'I surely do',we enjoy the best of the two worlds,we attend lectures and bunk too.But yes we are the once who run after people for notes,start stuidng one to two weeks before exams, get an above average score and fight the urges to go out and waste time'doing tp' when we know our priorities are something else.
From my personal experience I say, people like us are the most 'lost and confused' bunch cuaz we know our priorities but then also we end up doing nothing about them ,we are dragged more and more into wasting time and end up loosing focus. And when our senses finally come back to place that time we realise the time which has gone,which would never come back.
The BRATS
We also see a lot of brats in our college life, these are the so called 'popular' people who bunk lectures ,sit in the canteen all day doing nothing, exams are mere nothing to them,they brag about flunking ,they enjoy their college life to the fullest learning nothing at the end.They know nothing about the things happening around them and are mere 'frogs in a tank'.
I always wonder where do people land up after college, I guess the nerdy kinds pass out with flying colours and end Up with their dream jobs, the Jacks find their own place in the world,they either make their lives successful or are pulled down by the brats following their suit to 'no where'. After college ends 'the so called popular' people end up no where and become 'Zero's from Hero's' and I guess the nerds are the once who finally win in this race called life.
Cuaz at the end of the day, it all boils down to the numbers on your score card and the knowledge you have, with no credit to how popular you are.That's something I have learned.
Though I have written this, I myself need to realise some of the aforesaid points cuaz still my senses are at the wrong places and I need to get they back in place before its too late.I am having a hard time balancing academics and extra-curricular activities ,but I guess ill have to give up some to achieve my dreams.
Do ponder over the aforesaid and think where you stand with your lives.
Here's hoping to become a nerd someday 'soon'.
Friday, November 2, 2007
No Expectations
Sometimes in life ,things happen which makes you wonder about people and their behaviour changes.At one moment they are the once 'who cared' and the next they become strangers who wanna axe you.Time and again I have said human relations are complex 'proved yet again'. I hope one day we find a way of getting out of this vicious cycle.
I've always been the responsible one ,done the right things, said the right words, made sure no body gets hurt, thought about others before myself, dealt with situations being in the shoes of other 'btw I am not praising myself,just putting some things, to throw light on the topic been talked abt' LOLZ
But all this 'Goodness of mine',''as I may say so'',hasn't done any good for me, time and again I end up getting hurt.People take me for granted, and I get pushed into yet another emotional dungent.
I guess Ive reached a point in my life where Iv had enough.And hence forth I wont have any kind of expectations from anyone anymore.
I've always believed in the saying ''If you do good things, good things would happen to you''. I still believe in this and will continue to 'the good things' but won't have any expectations in return.
I've always been the responsible one ,done the right things, said the right words, made sure no body gets hurt, thought about others before myself, dealt with situations being in the shoes of other 'btw I am not praising myself,just putting some things, to throw light on the topic been talked abt' LOLZ
But all this 'Goodness of mine',''as I may say so'',hasn't done any good for me, time and again I end up getting hurt.People take me for granted, and I get pushed into yet another emotional dungent.
I guess Ive reached a point in my life where Iv had enough.And hence forth I wont have any kind of expectations from anyone anymore.
I've always believed in the saying ''If you do good things, good things would happen to you''. I still believe in this and will continue to 'the good things' but won't have any expectations in return.
Thursday, October 25, 2007
ExamS
DATE ; 6.10.2007
TIME ; 2 A.M
LOCATION - MY ROOM 'STUDY TABLE'
SITUATION - 5 days left for my first semester exams
STATUS - 60% portion done 'Thank God ,ill pass'
muhahahahah
Well after learning a few lessons from the first year ,this year''2nd year'' I started studying about 3 weeks before.
Started off by collecting notes, 'xerox notes' ,thank god somebody invented it else I dont't know what would have happened to people like me who are generally found out of the clssroom. lolz 'infact had fallen short of pocket money owing to them'.
At that moment of time'in which the pic was taken' , I was so sure of doing well in my exams that I didn't study anymore,'tried to act smart and only covered the portion featured in the last 3 years papers'.This time around I expected to do really well.
And when the 'THE DAY' came,I still had portions,which remained untouched, tensions were on a high with my palms sweating 'I really wanted to avoid this,this time around but just couldn't'.
And after my first paper ,my expectations were washed away ,all what was felt was a sense of 'betrayal,I gave to myself',so from the next paper, I just went in, with no expectations and did what ever I could do, in the given time.
''It was as if the examiner knew what all portions I had felt, and gave those topics in the question paper, and this happened in all the papers ,not just one''.
I GUESS LUCK WASN'T ON MY SIDE:(
Well none of them were good ,they were just 'okay' and 'fine'.
Yes I would definaltely pass,but passing was'nt ever an issue for me, I just need to score better cauz I have good brains and I need to show that.
Well,
What I need to learn from this is that, I shouldn't take my academics lightly, its time to become serious.
I better pull up my socks before its too late.
YAAH HAPPY REALISATION :|
Monday, October 8, 2007
Owe to Jacky
if u suffer, those who love u will suffer… so stop suffering… don’t get hurt, this may swell… hide ur wounds, air may infect it…
don’t ask for love.. like u ask for water all de time… if u deserve it… u will get it… don’t beg anyone, it’s a sin…
keep up ur honor.. If it falls... than cover it with mud n burry it deep… so no one can see that ur honor fell…
think of money, save it, trick with de things around you… and give it to those who gave you… u have favors to return…favors that are so high and large in number… I m afraid, u may never be able to return them at all…live for others… that’s life…
Who says love is all that we ever needed… remember that day u were asking for ‘jeans’… when I said I love you…and… and… and…
@ Capt. Jack Sparrow a.k.a Rohit
Firstly I would appreciate Jacky for allowing me to put some of his lines up on my post, I read his post '' de rivals ''i'' and....''i'' '', these lines , just hit me home .They just bought me back from a place, to realise some things I kinda lost in the hassle and bustle of a fast moving life .
In our lives we keep on emphasising on things like success, happiness, love,honour sidelining the small things which make us happy. We keep on cribbing about minor things when we have our universe with us which we just didn't notice before, and with all this 'so called messed up and hurt full felling'' ,we end up hurting the people close to us.
We some where down the line loose track of our priorities and that's where all the trouble gets started.
SO one thing for starters ''Keep your priorities in place,and everything else would fall into place''
don’t ask for love.. like u ask for water all de time… if u deserve it… u will get it… don’t beg anyone, it’s a sin…
keep up ur honor.. If it falls... than cover it with mud n burry it deep… so no one can see that ur honor fell…
think of money, save it, trick with de things around you… and give it to those who gave you… u have favors to return…favors that are so high and large in number… I m afraid, u may never be able to return them at all…live for others… that’s life…
Who says love is all that we ever needed… remember that day u were asking for ‘jeans’… when I said I love you…and… and… and…
@ Capt. Jack Sparrow a.k.a Rohit
Firstly I would appreciate Jacky for allowing me to put some of his lines up on my post, I read his post '' de rivals ''i'' and....''i'' '', these lines , just hit me home .They just bought me back from a place, to realise some things I kinda lost in the hassle and bustle of a fast moving life .
In our lives we keep on emphasising on things like success, happiness, love,honour sidelining the small things which make us happy. We keep on cribbing about minor things when we have our universe with us which we just didn't notice before, and with all this 'so called messed up and hurt full felling'' ,we end up hurting the people close to us.
We some where down the line loose track of our priorities and that's where all the trouble gets started.
SO one thing for starters ''Keep your priorities in place,and everything else would fall into place''
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